When You Lose Weight, What People Say…

As an obvious chubby girl I publicly taunted myself with comments of my girth as a way to deflect what I was convinced people were thinking when they saw me. As I began to lose weight, most people who knew me would get a little squint in their eye and I’d catch a quick up-down look. But, they wouldn’t say anything. Now, when there is no way you could ignore the fact that I lost a third of my weight, people are more than willing to blurt out anything.

Such is what I’ve been experiencing for about three months now. Whether it is a friend, acquaintance, colleague or family member, I am always amazed by the reactions and at times a loss for words.  Let’s share some:

  • “I’m so proud of you! It is so good that you are taking care of yourself,” well meaning relative. I raised my eyebrows on that one. It was definitely a backhanded compliment if there ever was one.
  • “Can I ask? How much did you lose?” work acquaintance in a whispered conspirator voice. No, you really shouldn’t ask me how much. Does it really matter? But, I’ll tell you anyway.
  • “Michele!?” client clearly confused if I was who they thought I was. This was pretty amusing because I could see their discomfort in how to handle the situation.
  • “You look amazing! You lost so much!…Is it a good thing? Are you okay?” work colleague. Honestly, this was not the only person that has asked this. Yes, I’m okay. I don’t have cancer. Its a good thing. “Oh! Great. You look great!”
  • Eye comment – Up down. Up down. Up down. Stood with a colleague and two clients who verbally said nothing but gave me the once over. The two men looked more stunned. The woman was a bit snarky. Oh well. Such is the workplace where men sometimes can’t help themselves and women often secretly hate each other.
  • “How did you do it?” friend. I actually like this comment the best. It gives me a chance to talk about running and all the fun I now have paddling, hiking, and enjoying new foods.
  • “I always wanted to wear leather pants.” relative. Not snarky, but a little envious. Yes, I wore leather pants to Thanksgiving dinner. Got it, flaunt it sometimes. But, I was more surprised by who said it. They would look amazing in leather pants now. Maybe getting myself in shape has added to my confidence!
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Michele’s Hockey Tournament Parent Survival Guide

If the holiday season kicking off early for me last Thursday with my in-laws coming in wasn’t enough, this weekend saw me in NH for my son Matt’s hockey tournament. For those of you not familiar with hockey culture, the tournament is as much for the kids as it is for the adults. Its one of the few times us hockey parents can step out of the grind. We can get a block of hotel rooms, let the kids loose with all the other hockey teams, and kick back with food, drinks, and late night socializing. This is a three day party.

Now, if you are hotel staff used to hosting hockey teams, then this is not an issue, you know what you are in for. For guests that are not with any of the hockey teams staying at your chosen hotel – sorry. We do try to keep the kids from running through the halls and carrying on. We do reserve function rooms for them to play knee hockey. We do take them to the pool – but you don’t want to be there then. We do book at least one night where we take the party to a restaurant for several hours. But, invariably, we do take over. Advice, grab a beer and join the hockey parents.

Anyway, believe it or not, staying healthy during this weekend of early mornings, late nights, and running to and from the rink and pool is harder than a holiday routine. I’m guaranteed meals of hamburgers, pizza, chicken fingers, fries, pasta casseroles and junk food.

The only saving grace is that our tournament was up at Waterville Valley where they have a full athletic center. And, when the cold and wind weren’t beating us into submission, it was not a bad walk from the lodge to the “town” and rink. So, I was able to hit the gym when I pulled in on Friday then again on Saturday morning for a run and the weight room. And any walking about easily got me between 16K and 20K steps.

My meal strategy was a crazy mix. I packed a bag with oatmeal, yogurt, fruit, butternut squash soup, my cauliflower broccoli pilaf, granola, wheat crackers, Babybel cheese and homemade pate. I also grabbed some turkey and tuna at the local grocer. Breakfasts and lunches were at least in line so that even as I packed in the junk food for dinner and over drinks, it could have been a lot worse.

I tried, really I tried. But when you’ve had a first drink the inhibitions already start to kick in. When the table in front of you is filled with corn chips, guacamole and caramel corn, that is going to go in my mouth. At our team dinner, the healthiest things on the buffet were cesar salad and eggplant lasagna. While I grabbed both, two meatballs came along for the ride as well as a piece of garlic toast. I can’t really blame that meal choice on having a drink though. I stuck to soda with a splash of cranberry and lime. No, it was all me!

In the end, I did fine. My weigh-in was 109.1 this morning. Just where I need to be. What made the difference?

Hockey Tournament Parent Survival Guide For Healthy Living

  • Keep room for one meal cheat. My group meals were the killers even with portion control and a tight grip on the alcohol (no more than 2). They accounted for more than half my daily intake. But, keeping my other meals healthy and under calorie gave me wiggle room. A large Americano gave me enough caffeine to curb my hunger and avoid snacking.
  • Just exercise. I took my own advise from my travel tips. After 2 1/2 hour driving in the car it was as bad as sitting on the plane. Even though everyone had gathered already when I got to the hotel, I still got in my running gear and ran. I also made sure I got in a good weekend workout at the gym. Sunday was a day of rest because of schedule, but I still had put in 6 days of exercise.
  • Keep tracking. It’s sobering when you continually track all you meals and can see the calories add up. By tracking after each meal, it kept me mindful even when the bad stuff was in front of me. Watching my activity level along side my eating also made me aware of keeping calories in and calories out in balance.
  • Get inspired by the hockey. Watching 14 year old boys skate hard and battle it out over the puck and on the boards makes you very aware of your own age and fitness. Could I do that today? No. But, it sure looked fun and I would love to play. Add to the fact that we were at a ski resort and my ski passion kept me motivated to stay fit and get my exercise in.
  • Wear Team USA exercise gear. Okay, this is really dorky and to some a waste of money. But, I got a Nike Team USA track and field jacket at a deep discount at TJMaxx a couple weeks back. Of course I’m not a professional or Olympian. The thought of a marathon kills me. Yet, there is something amazingly awesome about pulling on that jacket that makes me feel like one and inspires me to just run!
  • Its about the distance, not the day. When I got back home I immediately started to get back on the program by cooking up healthy food that I can grab and go. I don’t have to think about cooking and what I’ll eat, I can easily cleanse my systems of all that horrible, but so good, junk food.

It was all worth going up. They won! (There’s my Matt on the right – he’s the goalie)

EC Leafs Waterville Vallley Hockey Tournament 2017

One Simple Travel Tip To Stay Healthy – Just Keep Running

I realized I created a habit while not even thinking about it. While road warrioring, I get to my hotel room, change into running gear and go for a run.

It could be indoors or outside.

It could be slow or fast.

It could be for 30 minutes of an hour.

It could be morning, mid day or evening.

It doesn’t matter. I just do it.

The realization came when I took my son up to NH this weekend for a hockey tournament. I got to the hotel and had the most compelling urge to run. At 3:30 in the afternoon and sitting in a car for 2 1/2 hour, I had to just run. So I did.

Why is this so important to me? I realized that running is a habit. Not an exercise. Not strictly a passion. It is something I just need to do. Almost like brushing my teeth. I realized on the couple of days that I don’t run I feel like I forgot to do something or feel like something is missing.

I have only been running since May, six months. Running while at home is certainly easier. But the fact that I have a routine of hitting the road, trail or treadmill just after checking into my hotel when traveling is an eye opener. It means I moved from running as a way to keep my weight in line to a healthy living lifestyle.

Maybe running will be your thing. Or maybe you get on an elliptical, rower or bike. Doesn’t matter really. The simple trick is finding the one thing as a road warrior that will drive you to exercise and it isn’t a chore but a need to fulfill. Now your have a habit, drive and motivation.

Holiday Healthy Living Strategy

It’s been 319 days since I starting my Chubbygirl journey to healthy weight and healthy living. I hit my goal weight of 110 back in September and hover around 108 and 109. The true challenge will be the holidays and all the eating. For me, it starts at 5:00p today when the in-laws arrive. I’ve already got a brisket in the oven and potatoes ready for mashing.

Which brings me to the holiday conundrum. I landed on my goal weight based on what should my optimal weight be as well as giving me a five pound buffer during the holidays. I know that I won’t be able to resist stuffing, or wine, or egg nog, or cookies. Chocolate is another one that while the single square or two isn’t bad (and I do this now), it is the whole bar or those boxes of truffles that kill me. Nut bowls? OMG, shoot me now. Yes, my hand lives in them.

In reality, I don’t want to gain five pounds. That is a month of 1200 calories again and more exercise. Its a diet that I will fail at. It puts my healthy living mindset at odds with a quick fix to a lack of self-control and gluttony.

I’ve come up with a strategy based on what we do in our house and with our family and not use this time to deviate to far from healthy living. In the end, I still want to enjoy the holidays. So here it goes:

  • Snack bowls go away: We always have bowls of chocolate, nuts and dried fruit out. I would typically make a meal out of that before eating a meal. Now, if I want a sweet (or others do) you have to get it out. I can keep with my portioning that way.
  • Keep with smaller plates or eating inside the rim: I can portion my meals better if I shrink the footprint they sit on. I do that today and need to do  that for our big family meals.
  • Don’t have to try everything: Thanksgiving in our family means 3 kinds of stuffing (regular, corn, meat). I need to pick one. I like mashed potatoes, but I don’t need them and sweet potatoes and squash. Roasted and smoked turkey are served, but I don’t need full portions of both.
  • Big meal, will race: I think every town has a 5k the morning of thanksgiving. There are also a ton of jingle bell runs this time of year. I’m just going to do it to add some fun to my running ritual.
  • Go for hikes in the woods: There are so many state and town parks around with great trails. Instead of lazing around the house we can add in a hike or trail run.
  • Take some time for rest and family bonding: Our big family thing is pulling out an insanely difficult puzzle and diving in together over the course of the vacation. We spend time together, talk, and chill out – except when the end is near and we compete to be the one to put in the last puzzle piece!
  • Keep to my exercise regimen: If I can get off a plane, get into a hotel at 9p or be severely jetlagged and still get on a treadmill, the holiday’s are no excuse to slack off.
  • Don’t sweat the gluttonous meal: If I fail on Thanksgiving day, Christmas Eve and Christmas day, and a party here or there, so be it. I’ve had unplanned cheat meals that haven’t killed me yet. Just don’t make it a daily habit.

I need to trust myself, continue to embrace the changes I’ve made, and realize that instead of the holiday’s being scary, they can still be fun.

What are your strategies?

 

 

Tokyo Ended: Landed and Grabbed a Burger!

Japanese food is great. In Tokyo, it is way better than in the US – obviously. But, after three days of Japanese meals I was longing for American food.

How did I celebrate being back in the US? A big juicy gouda, bacon and crispy onion burger on brioche with fries at JFK. Controlling myself, I only ate half the burger and fries. Even if I wanted to I couldn’t eat the whole meal. I racked up the bad eating and have no regrets. Bow to the burger!

Checked in on facebook and saw Tom skipped the outdoor run for the elliptical. 34 degrees was just too cold for him. I’m a little peeved he didn’t. So, I’m taking him to the running store for cold weather gear. Probably will pick up some stuff myself. If I’m going to dis him online I should eat my own dog$h!t. Right?

Burger was awesome. Fries crispy good too. Calls from Tom, daughter and oldest son as I typed this blog entry welcomed me home too. The little cheat meal was so worth it. Will run it off in the morning!

Slogging Out A Busy Travel Month

Last week Chicago, this week Tokyo, next week back to Chicago. I’m gearing up for the jet lag battle, managing through daylight savings time, and still stay on my healthy living journey.

My disappointment so far is that the weather and time schedules made runs along the river, out to Lincoln Park, or even just getting outside this week was a firm no. But, brand new Lifestyle treadmills at the six week old Marriot made my 30 minute runs with Stephen Colbert easy with its nice cushioned pad. While there weren’t many healthy options in the lunch buffet line for the event I attended (per the norm), the butternut squash frisee salad, caramelized cauliflower and roasted Brussel sprouts at Woven and Bound was amazing for dinner.

As I head to Tokyo, my anxiety is how to overcome jet lag. Yes, I’m flying over in business class with flat bed seating, but that doesn’t mean I will sleep long or peacefully. I’m guaranteed to be a mess for the three days I’m there. I’m hoping that a run will help me stay steady. Ideally that will be a run through Tokyo, but my feeling is that I’m back on the treadmill in the hotel. I’m not that disappointed that I won’t see the city. I’ve been to Tokyo many times. But, it has been almost ten years and a lot can change. To be honest, I want the outdoor run as another way to notch my running belt for the experience of feet hitting the road/trail in another part of the world.

I’m not fretting the eating so much lately. Oversized portions of salad and vegetables and light portions of protein and grains is keeping me satisfied and in my calorie allowance. While there certainly are days I go overboard – my night at Woven and Bound included a dessert pretzel and raspberry gallette was a 2000+ day – there are days I eat much less (~1100) simply because I’m not hungry. Keeping my metabolism up with at least 30 minutes of running or exercise 5 days a week seems to be the trick.

However, I won’t lie or minimize the effort. Maintenance mode is hard. Not having the scale for feedback during the week puts me in paranoia mode that I’ll come home to see I’ve gained 5 pounds. Avoiding some amazing entrees featured on menus is torture. Constantly having to make trade-offs knowing and not knowing what I’ll encounter for meetings over meals, meals ordered by clients, or those dreaded buffet lines is terrifying.  The only saving grace right now is that food in Tokyo is so fresh, oriented toward fish and vegetables, and much smaller portions than what you get in the US. And, it’s not just sushi, bento boxes and udon soups – but I love those too!

I went into this week at 109.3 and ended the weekend at 108.6. My first outdoor run in two weeks today had me at a 9:07 min/mile pace – a personal best. I ate cookies, pies, donuts, pasta, breakfast sausage, and had wine and cocktails this week. And still, my healthy living plan overall kept me on track. I think what I’m realizing is that I need to mostly eat healthy during the day and I can treat myself that day, but within reason. But, I  really need to keep my metabolism up and running, so exercise is more important now than it was when cutting back on food was more important in the beginning. There was an interesting study of the Biggest Loser participants that bears this out.

A wrap up:

  • Stay paranoid: as soon as you let your guard down or think you have ended, you will most likely go back to your old unhealthy self. A healthy dose of paranoia where the scale tells you that you are staying in a 1 – 3 pound range says if you need to cleanse for a week – aka put yourself back on your program for 7 days.
  • New normal for exercise: If you were working out 6-7 days per wee, 45 – 60 minutes per day, if you pull back to 30 minutes per day 4-5 days per week at high intensity, all can be good. You need to find what you can do FOREVER. If what you did while pulling off the weight is unsustainable, get real and find what is doable. Then, adjust your food for that.
  • Always change: What worked for me at the start of my journey, in the middle, at the end, and today is so very different. If you read guidance and promises of a regiment to follow, don’t believe it. You will always tweak your lifestyle as your body is getting used to the new normal every day at a time.
  • Don’t obsess the scale: It’s not the number as much as it is about how your feel and how you feel about how you look. Get on the scale at least once a week for feedback. But, use your clothes and the mirror to tell you when you think you are adding a little padding or if you are getting bonier that you want to be. Its a holy trinity – weight, clothing size, mirror.

 

Living the Commuter Life Is Cramping My Healthy Living Style

Yes, it is time for my whiney blog. This week I stayed in town but needed to commute into the city every day rather than work from home. Boo hoo, you say as the tiny violin between your fingers plays, that’s life baby. But, I am so used to the flight of stairs commute to my office that spending 90 minutes or more on the Mass Pike into the city then againout to attend an event and meetings with my best vendor clients sucks.

What also sucks is that by going into the city I am confronted with the same challenges as when I travel: access to healthy food, eating in a timely manner before I hit the red zone, and working in my run. Add in the added hassles: Having to wake up at 5:45a and the fact that daylight savings time hasn’t kicked in so it is dark until after 7:00a means no early run. Meetings at lunch means no getting out for a run or even hitting the The horrendous commute back to my house in what city people would call the boonies.

By the time I did get home each day this week, my commuter angries and low blood sugar level by not having eaten anything since 1:30p kicked in. The only way to detox was to immediately shed my monkey suit, throw on my running gear and crash my treadmill.

God I miss the road. I miss healthy food that doesn’t make me feel bloated, achy stomachy and hungry an hour later. I even miss having to live healthy when traveling since then I at least don’t have to deal with commuter traffic and the airport lounge and hotel staff always take care of me. I miss the fact that I can roll out of bed at 7:00a, hit the gym or road for a run and still have time to get ready, eat and head to my meeting.

So, to those of you struggling to get healthy and stay healthy while road warrior-ing, there are no excuses. It is so much easier on the road.

In the grand scheme of things, I dropped to 108 (almost 2 lbs) on Monday and all my running around like a crazy lady has kept me there. It gave me license to add back a little on my plates this week. Good thing too; there was Boston Cream Cake pinafores on the dessert buffet table. Score!